Regardless, States have the ability to provide for contractual agreements between individuals. They can receive a non-religious name Social Contract or Civil Contract as opposed to the apparently offensive Civil Union that exist in many states currently. A contract simply sets forth a set of rules under which two people will function as a partnership. The State can provide boiler plate language and the participants are free to add whatever other requirements are necessary to codify the relationship that suits them best. Agreements of this type can and should be renewable periodically with a fee attached in the same way as a corporation or partnership pays a fee to a State, or an individual pays for a drivers license or professional license.
Religious Matrimony is a function of religious organizations and is sanctioned by them according to their sovereign guidelines and rules. If a Church wants to join two men or two women in a ceremony that is their choice, but if another church does not, they are free to exercise their freedom under the Constitution. Nothing is more sacred to Americans than their ability to practice their faith or not, and to do so without the interference of the State to the extent that all other manner of law is observed. Religions determine what is Holy or not and what meets the requirements of particular faith. For instance Roman Catholics require a six month instructional period prior to marriage in the Church so that a couple is deemed fully aware of the responsibilities of the Sacrament Holy Matrimony and the consequences of their having entered into it from a number of perspectives both financially and spiritually. The same is true for other faiths for different time frames. Other's have no such requirement.
The point here is that no one gets to own a Word. No one receives purview over defining society. The same should hold true for each and every word that has any controversy associated with it, regardless of the political prize for which it might curry favor . Words do not have rights. Words do not have responsibilities. Rights and Responsibilities are for people alone. No group should be able to hold another group hostage over a word. No individual should have to have their conscience or livelihood trampled or tossed aside because of a word. The time for Political Correctness and the Word Police to take permanent leave of us, and for all concerned to understand no one is better or worse an another. So, no more Defense of Marriage Amendments, no more LGBT Marriage Lawsuits, Laws, or Amendments to Constitutions. No more torts for damages for hurt feelings, and no more businesses being forced to comply with rules they do not believe in for the sake of their conscience. No more veiled references to the intolerance of mainstream religions.
The entire Grievance industry needs to be shut down and the Race industry is no exception. When the mere mention of the word Racist shuts down any and all discussion about any topic whatever, there can be no effective reasonable communication between two or more parties simply because someone may have been unduly tainted by an unsubstantiated accusation. If there is no civil discourse there can never be a point at which people can even agree to disagree on any topic. Lists of "Code Words", one that is secret and seemingly never ceasing to grow provides a moving target for anyone deemed irrelevant and ripe for abuse. The abusers reap far beyond what they sow in benefits, much of which undoubtedly comes from sources far less interested in furthering the agenda of an organization than they are the political discourse that benefits themselves and their friends.